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Everywhere you look, you can see that the world is in chaos. The most obvious example of this is the emergence of the Corona Virus. This virus has created untold chaos from ill health, loss of employment, the destruction of relationships to fear and uncertainty about the future. Covid-19 has unsettled the world’s population and reinforced the power of nature. As much as we like to believe we are the superior beings on this planet, we are still unable to control physics and the greater power of the natural order.

Fear of uncertainty

The Corona Virus has reminded us that there is a…


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“No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again.” — Buddha

I seem to spend an inordinate amount of time looking for ‘mental fixes’ and sure-fire actions to make life happier, smoother and more peaceful. However, no matter how hard I try I have not yet succeeded (and never really expected to if I am realistic — can’t help trying though!) in finding a specific formula tailored to dealing with the mad lives we lead on this truly insane planet. I have found simple ideas though that have helped me navigate life a little more easily. I may not have all the answers and I am learning all the time, but…


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The effect of trolling via social media on mental health is becoming a modern-day crisis. Social media is a convenient method of harrassing and bullying others in a non-direct way. You don’t have the face your victim directly yet you can express all of your anger and inner unhappiness without too much effort. Type insults and derogatory remarks furiously on a keyboard and …send. Job done.

Why is bullying on social media increasing?

The main reason that people bully others is to feel better about themselves. They tend to be unhappy people and when they bully, they are giving others a ‘tiny taste’ of how tumultuous and…


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Decision making

When you are engaged in , your decisions tend to be based on reasonable and realistic variables. If you are depressed or anxious, it is highly likely that your thought processes are unhealthy and possibly even dysfunctional. At times when I have felt depressed, I have avoided making long-term decisions that would have a substantial impact on my life. The reason I delayed decision making when I did not feel mentally healthy was that I did not trust my thinking at the time. If we are anxious or depressed we may be operating from a part of our brain that…


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The term Narcissist is commonly used these days and it seems like everyone can be called one at this point. We all have narcissistic tendencies but most of us have very mild tendencies. Someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder has severe symptoms — selfish, lacking empathy, need for admiration, feeling entitled and superior — although this grandiose behaviour hides insecurity and their own fear of being seen as a ‘loser’. …


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Emotional abuse isn’t physical abuse but it is a form of abuse against a person’s spirit and soul. Emotional abuse is far more subtle than physical abuse and causes added anxiety for the victim as there is room for self-doubt. There are many examples of emotional abuse that you won’t find written in a typical article on emotional abuse. The usual examples of emotional abuse are behaviours such as name-calling, criticism, gaslighting, isolating you from friends and family, spying on you, controlling, jealous, and monitoring your mobile phone.

The types of emotional abuse that appear in a relationship can be…


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Going to university can be exciting and scary at the same time. The prospect of university offers freedom, independence, and choice but it also brings with it pressure and anxiety. It might be the biggest upheaval you have had to cope with so far and it’s very normal to experience highs and lows at university.

There is social pressure to fit in and make friends and there’s a huge workload that can seem daunting, even to the most motivated of students. Some students feel homesick and others suffer from social anxiety. Not to mention, sleeping difficulties, work stress and burnout…


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Strategies to combat worry are needed more than ever. The Covid pandemic has left many people unemployed, struggling financially, arguing with loved ones and feeling very worried about an uncertain future. Thankfully, there are simple ways to help you to combat worry. Worry is unfortunately a part of life and a state that our minds seem to default to when they aren’t occupied (something evolution got wrong!)

Here are suggestions to help you combat worry:

Ask yourself the following questions:

  • Is this something with a very low probability of occurring?
  • What prediction am I making?
  • What is the problem that needs to be solved?
  • What specific actions can…

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When I was diagnosed with cancer in 2018, I felt very afraid but I knew that I needed to stay mentally healthy. When you stay mentally healthy, you manage the physical issues far better. I had had a colonoscopy two years prior to this and there had been a few abnormal structural changes but it wasn’t emphasized to me and I assumed everything was fine. The only reason I went for another colonoscopy was that due to having Cystic Fibrosis, I experienced symptoms similar to IBS (irritable bowel syndrome). …


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Tips for motivating yourself seem more important than ever. Being stuck at home due to Covid has changed the landscape for many people socially and emotionally. Many people report finding it hard to stay motivated and it’s even harder when you have no one around to help you foster the positive energy that we sometimes need. When we have others around us, we can feed off that energy and that dynamic. When at home, we may have a different mindset and we also have more time to think which can sometimes be dangerous if you tend to overthink.

Here are 10 tips for motivating yourself when you are struggling to get going

1.Link the Goal To Values

Values can…

Mandy Kloppers

Author, counsellor and blogger. Love tea and animals and people’s stories…. CBT Counsellor/ Blog: www.thoughtsonlifeandlove.com

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