How your childhood affects you forever

Have you ever thought about how your childhood affects you forever? Not many people do. Your childhood explains a lot about you. If you find that you tend to end up in the same relationship patterns, your childhood might be to blame. Parents have a lot to answer for. The way they treated you growing up severely impacts your attitudes and perceptions as an adult. Early experiences create an inner working-model of how relationships work. These models tend to be stable over our lifetime.
Attachment Theory
Attachment theory was created by the British Psychologist, John Bowlby. He noticed that children who came from stable homes tended to enjoy stable relationships as adults. Individuals whose childhood was neglectful or abusive tended to repeat that pattern in their adult relationships. That’s a pretty big deal. As a baby, you are born a blank slate. You learn about the world according to the experiences you have. If your primary caregiver (commonly your mother) was unpredictable in their care for you, you learn that the world only meets your needs sometimes. This results in an anxious attachment style where you feel unsafe. Most of us carry this belief with us and expect others to let us down or disappoint us. The sad thing is that this thinking can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Your childhood affects you forever if you hang on to those unhelpful beliefs.
Denial