When we feel unhappy, our emotional disturbances come from our thoughts. Dr Albert Ellis identified 11 irrational beliefs that cause us to feel emotions such as anger, hate, worry, panic, insecurity, jealousy, passivity, procrastination, and other forms of escape. To reduce these unwelcome emotions involves training yourself to reject irrational ideas, to question their soundness so completely that you no longer think they make sense.
ELEVEN IRRATIONAL IDEAS:
1) BEING UNLOVED OR DISAPPROVED OF PROVES YOU ARE BAD AND WORTHLESS
Rejection hurts. Do you feel you only have value if people important to you regard your highly? If they do not respect or love you, then you are an unacceptable human being. This belief is nonsense. Who are other people to pass judgement anyway? Are they perfect? It’s not great when other people disapprove but it’s hardly the end of the world.
2) BEHAVING BADLY, STUPIDLY, OR AMORALLY MAKES YOU A BAD WORTHLESS PERSON
Believing that you can only think well of yourself if you are outstanding, a high achiever, and nearly perfect will create distress. The reality is-the only way any of us can ever be free of errors is when we are dead. All living people will make…