How your thoughts distort reality — Thoughts on Life and Love

There are many instances where an individual’s thoughts represent an inaccurate view of reality. In fact, I have seen many clients who have thought one thing about a situation and when we have reviewed the evidence, we have both seen how the client’s thoughts have not been a correct reflection of reality. It’s a sad state of affairs when you consider how our thoughts can create a negative mood and in many cases, this sad negative mood wasn’t even justified. Every second you spend miserable is a wasted opportunity to been content and at ease.

There are many ways in which we distort reality and cause ourselves unnecessary stress/anxiety purely due to our errors in thinking.

Mind Reading

This is a very common error in thinking. It occurs when we assume that we know what someone else is thinking. For example: Your partner forgets to take the bins out after you asked them nicely to do it. You may assume “They don’t care about me because if they did they would care about my quality of life and help out more around the house”. There is NO direct evidence for this thought as there could be many reasons why they forgot to do the bins and it might have nothing to do with how they feel about you. Direct evidence would be them telling you, “I didn’t take bins out because I don’t care about…