PEOPLE PLEASING
People-pleasing often comes from low self-esteem. When you don’t like yourself enough, you are more likely to let people walk all over you and this increases your need for external validation. We end up running ourselves ragged in an attempt to feel better about ourselves. Not very clever is it?
You will never be able to please everyone all the time. Do something helpful for others because you want to help them out, not for the reciprocated acceptance. This is a crazy way to feel good about yourself. It is also very precarious because feeling good about yourself is reliant upon others. This is never a good idea. Stop people-pleasing. You will find people still like you (and if they don’t they weren’t worth your time anyhow). In fact, you will probably have far more respect from others (and for yourself) when you start pleasing yourself a little more. Don’t become a selfish git but stop people-pleasing wherever you go.
COMPARING
Oh, what a waste of time. Comparing yourself is never an accurate process. You compare yourself with others and you can’t possibly know everything about others. You compare your bad stuff with all their good stuff — not exactly accurate and all this comparison achieves is to allow you to feel worse about yourself. Stop comparing — no one has a…